yawning is useless..

…especially in front of my two month old!
who on earth had said yawning is contagious , come to me and i will give u a kick! I have been yawning since an hr or so on my kids face, and all he does is smile and laugh and smirk and poop!!

Fight Flight!!

I fight a lot. Sometimes I voluntary pick up fights, no I am not a person who derives sadistic pleasure from irritating others, I just do that. The other day, A genuinely asked me, why the hell am i bent on picking up a fight from unknown reason, and i started pondering..why do i do that! not that it itches me at unmentionable places if i dont!!

Then i realized, i actually love doing that, especially with A. Ok, that might be weird, but let me explain. I will start with a quote from my fav char —

And that’s precisely true. imagine having a conversation like: 

S: what happened? 

A: nothing. 

S: ok. Lets have dinner. 

Yup. thats the end. Now, try the other way around. 

S: what happened?

A: nothing.

S: Naah..thats not true. tell what happened?

A: really, nothing.

S: I am your wife. why do you want to hide things?

A: O man! now something will turn out something if u keep pestering me. blah blah blah…

Now, lets analyse both the conversations. C1 and C2, in the following fields:

Level of boringness:

In C1, the matter gets over, they have dinner, and no more talking. Thats a little bore, dont you think. Where as in C2, The conversation goes on, may be followed by an arguement, which makes things spicy. 

Time communicated:

In C1, the couple talks for about a minute, head out for other tasks. In C2, The conversation prolongs, there is matter to talk, increasing words between the two. Communication for more time obviously helps in building the relationship (damn true..i.e. if your husband does not get pissed off and divorce you!). You see each others face for more time, there might be some physical intimacy (slaps also are counted 😉 ) , and worst case, if it results in a fight, there is a patch up , which results in more bonding!!

Knowledge gained:

For all you know, there might be really nothing that A is trying to hide. But if there is, Eventual pestering by S will reveal something on C2, but not in C1. So apart from the above 2, you get a bonus knowledge gain 😛

Ok. Enough of technicality here. My dumbass brain cant think more than that. But coming to the point, I think fights are healthy. Siblings fight for toys/books/chocolates, and eventually learn to share. Wife, leaves her siblings and goes to her husbands place. So whom does she have to fight? Husband obviously! It gives her a sense of closeness, the one she had with siblings/parents may be. So Husbands, if your wives fight with you, consider yourselves lucky, because she sees her family in you, and takes the same lenience to fight. 

We have seen our parents fight. Many of us might have felt bad seeing them fight. But trust me, they fight over you. They fight on who can provide the best for you. They fight on giving you the best of everything, they fight on making their relation work, so that you are not effected in any way. They fight, teaching you how the sense of sacrifice and commitment in family. See, fights are good. 

I had this friend in my 1st class, someone whom I used to call my best friend. We ate together, sat together, played together. Now, one day i find my pencil box missing, and i asked her to lend me one pencil, Lo. She takes out my box, gives me my pencil. When i confront her, she denies stealing. I fought with her, told teacher that she stole my box. She cried, and i could see the look on her face that she hated me. Well, i did not get the box back from her though. That day i go home, and i find my box there. My age at that time could not comprehend that two people can have similar pencil boxes, similar pencils. Well, i went the next day and i apologized to her in front of the whole class. She, being the sweetest gal ever, forgave me. And we’ve been bestest friends after that. See, what bad can a fight do?

Even now, i fight with many of my friends, schoolmates, college mates, over simple silly issues like, i was late because of her, she does not switch of the light before sleeping, i did not reply to his msg on time, lot more. But believe me, all these things have made me closer than ever to them. 

So A, next time I fight, it means I love you, and I demand your attention. So just be with me, fight with me, compromise and then take me out for a nice icecream treat! 🙂

 

Vampire babies!!

I think, babies are in assumption that they are from a different time zone! The owl and vampire zone!